Parental Wishes - A Step Too Far?

AnonyMouse_18655 · 2009-12-10T20:25:25+0000

For the past few weeks our setting has been preparing for Christmas, as I'm sure most of us are! so circle time is now dominated by learning songs for the Christmas concert. We have a 3 yr old whose parents do not want him to participate in any Christmas related activity due to their religious beliefs, and I completely respect and understand this. So whilst the others are learning the Christmas songs, one of the staff members accompanies the child at the computer or reads with him. This worked well to start with, but for the past few days as soon as he sees the chairs being arranged for circle time he sits down and refuses to move. We have tried to do the singing at different times, different seat formations, but he can see all the other children congregating and wants to be with them, understandably His parents say that they have explained to him that he isn't to join in and they says he understands We only have one room so even if he is not in the circle he is very close and can hear the singing. On Tuesday he refused to move, one of the other staff suggested that we abandon the Christmas singing. I said we should carry on! (don't know if this was right or wrong! but the other 23 children have to be considered as well) so he sat in the circle with his friends and we did the singing. The parents were informed what had happened, and they say they do not want him involved with the singing, it has been suggested that we physically remove him from the circle and take him to another part of the room. I am happy to distract, coax and tempt this child over to the computer but to physically remove him just doesn't feel right. I think he just wants to be with his friends in the circle and I am sure he doesnt understand why he is being excluded. Opinions at work are mixed, one staff member says that when she did her NVQ she was told that parental wishes should take priority. I said the welfare of the child should come first, he only started in September and had some communication and behavioural issues. He is finally making friends, his communication and social skills have improved immensley, and this situation is not doing him any good. So what do you think?

By AnonyMouse_18655
December 10, 2009 in Practice and Provision: General issues

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