Have I Made The Right Decision Over A Child Not Settling?

Guest · 2011-11-12T11:58:44+0000

I have posted about this particular child before but on Friday made a decision which my Deputy is questioning - at 10 pm last night! The child has come with mum or granny every day since September for her 2 1/2 hour session and they have stayed every session (mum or granny). We tried the separation for a few minutes and also for a longer spell. On both occasions child screamed and cried the whole time they were away. My deputy was of the opinion that if it took until next June this was how it should be despite consulting with another Playgroup Leader who said the same as me - get rid of mum and granny asap or you will never get this child to bond and settle with us. We were at a meeting with Playgroup Leaders and workers on Thursday night and my Deputy tackled this problem once again with a different leader who has had years of experience working in the Playgroup. She told her quite plainly that the child was having us and her mum over a barrel, manipulating everyone around us. I decided right that is it mum has to go so I talked to mum yesterday and she was in full agreement no questions about it whatever we wanted was OK with her. Now we have another child who is not settling at present and can have violent tendencies (another posting) so it takes a good bit of one to one with him to get him to calm down too. Then to add to the mix we have a new child starting on Monday - we had to go with this one as we have lost 2 children recently and had the space. My Deputy as I say rang me last night at 10 pm questioning whether we should ring the mother of this child who is not settling and say we have decided not to do this on Monday but wait for a while yet. We have an Early Years consultant coming in on Tuesday primarily to help us with the child who has violent tendencies and also to help with the other children's reaction to him. My Deputy is concerned that this Early Years Advisor will land in and see the place in uproarr - one child in the corner screaming and crying about wanting mum, another one snatching, kicking and lashing out at everyone and anyone who is in his way, another child who is frightened out of their wits and the rest of the children pinned against the wall scared out of their wits. Have I made the right decision as Playgroup Leader? I am worrying myself sick about this one as I don't like the idea of my Deputy not backing me up I think. Yes I know this child crying may upset the other children but what can we do in the circumstances - I mean we can't tell our Early Years consultant to deal with it, it is our Playgroup after all and we are the ones on the ground on a day to day basis. Please help before I have another sleepless night!

By Guest terrydoo73
November 12, 2011 in All Early Years settings & Childminders: General Issues

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