Consistently ignoring instructions!

AnonyMouse_7356 · 2013-11-20T22:29:20+0000

Hi How do you deal with a child who repeatedly ignores any form of instructions? He has just turned 4, and despite EAL is now very fluent in it and has a very good understanding. When discussing right and wrong thing to do, reading stories or when his peers aren't following rules and instructions he is very very quick to give the answer and reason why they should be doing it or will comment that they aren't being nice. He refuses to share often saying but I don't want to share even if he has taken the toy off another child - there is no reasoning with him despite using the tactic that these are my toys (staff toys) and we like to share with our friends. Despite understanding and knowing the setting rules/boundaries and what the instruction is it is almost like he just can't stop himself! I am running out of tactics. I do find I have to explain why he shouldn't be charging around indoors or why he should be barging into friends or why he shouldn't snatch toys. He likes an explanation which were happy to give but even after the 500th time he still asks why. He knows it hurts his friends when he spoils there play (this he often does by first observing them then removing an item they are playing with hoping for a reaction- the others ignore him now) He gets upset if his friends aren't particularly nice to him. Tried ignore negative behaviours unless he is hurting others, praising the positive with stickers etc and yet he still repeatedly ignores whatever is said to him. Today for example he had had a turn on the scooter and when the timer was up was asked to give another child ago. This he agreed to and when the child went over he rode off! A staff member then eventually caught up with him and asked him to give the scooter to the other child he eventually handed it over along with saying the other child was stupid! As a result he was asked to go into the playroom (where I was) and to sit and think about what he had just said. While sat in a seat he kicked the swept up pile if sand all over the floor. While speaking to him and saying I was upset that he had kicked it all over after sweeping up and would need to do it again he continued to kick his feet out. He is reluctant to maintain eye contact especially when his behaviour is being addressed and has recently taken to just walking away from staff. At a loss what to do but it's having a huge impact in the group. If he isn't in atmosphere is completely different. Part of me thinks there maybe an underlying condition but the other part of me thinks not. Help/advice would be very much appreciated please

By AnonyMouse_7356
November 20, 2013 in All Early Years settings & Childminders: General Issues

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