AnonyMouse_4562 Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 Hi everyone, I have a couple of children whose next step needs to be not to keep touching/poking etc other children as they don't like it! Previously for similar next steps I have used 'to become more aware of how their actions effect other's' however I have had parents miss understand this in the past and get a bit upset about it thinking that their child is a bully! Does anyone have any other way of wording this? Thanks Green Hippo x
Guest Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 to use their kind hands? then explain what kind hands do! are they trying to communicate? or not sure how to make friends? could then be to join in the play of others appropriately? it's tricky, isn't it?
AnonyMouse_19135 Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 Our next steps are directly lifted from the development matters so how about one of these? Can inhibit own actions/behaviours, e.g. stop themselves from doing something they shouldn't do. Aware of the boundaries set, and of behavioural expectations in the setting. Aware of own feelings, and knows that some actions and words can hurt others’ feelings.
AnonyMouse_4562 Posted October 20, 2014 Author Posted October 20, 2014 I do use the statements if they are relevant but find that the managing feelings and behaviour statements can cause confusion with parents. These children are not really hurting others intentionally or sometimes at all just irritating them (for want of a better word) so often causing another children to push or hit out (and they have slightly different next steps!) Just trying to be specific but without causing confusion! Thanks for the suggestions.
AnonyMouse_19135 Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 how about having the statement but then adding in brackets what specifically you are wanting?
AnonyMouse_9650 Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 Why not turn it into a communication and language next step- e.g., "uses spoken language rather than gestures and actions to communicate or attract the attention of their peers" 3
AnonyMouse_33773 Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 We have "Be able to stop themselves from doing something they know that they should not do", relating it to impulse-control. We added the second part to the DM/EYO as we felt that we need to consider that a child may not know. This kind of behaviour, e.g. poking others, is often showing itself in other contexts too. In relation to the communication context I think Sue's suggestion is great, but it could also be PD related, as in being aware of safety when taking risks or using equipment. And, actually, it may not be about seeking to communicate or get attention. Sometimes I just think a child in a circle is restless and does anything that their impulses compels them to do - a need to move and to experiment with and explore their surroundings, which could involve the people next to them.
Guest Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 we use the kind hands aim too - tend to go for 'to keep their hands on their own body' for children who poke others during group times
AnonyMouse_37203 Posted October 23, 2014 Posted October 23, 2014 In the past I've used keep hands and feet to themselves. If you wanted something more gentle how about x is very tactile but needs to recognise that others may not like to be touched / may want their own space. 1
AnonyMouse_4562 Posted October 23, 2014 Author Posted October 23, 2014 Thanks everyone. You've been a great help.
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